The Psychology of Unspoken Love (V2)

In the first volume of this series, two chapters were presented: Introduction and Early Signs of Unspoken Love.
In the relatively detailed introduction to the book, topics like “Theoretical and Research Literature on Unspoken Love,” “Reasons for Keeping Unspoken Love Unspoken,” “How Unspoken Love Forms,” and “Reflection on Field Study of Unspoken Love” were discussed. In the second chapter of the book, relying on field findings, the early signs of unspoken love were examined as follows:
Readiness for experiencing the wondrous phenomenon of love, sudden emergence of unspoken love, emergence of some biological changes upon encountering the beloved, prominent role of excitement in forming unspoken loves, transformative power of unspoken love, experiencing different emotions, being awestruck by the greatness of love, gaining delicacy in the flow of unspoken love, seeing the universe beautifully, experiencing a type of mysticism, increased courage and boldness in passionate lovers, inclination toward poetry and literature, greater attention to environmental factors, idealistic perception of the beloved, projecting one’s mental ideals onto the beloved, wishful perception, love’s mobilizing effect, feeling joy and delight, interest in remaining in the seat of coquetry, interest in meeting the beloved, efforts to attract the beloved’s attention, efforts to spend time together with the beloved, setting aside pride when facing the beloved, fantasizing, initial doubts and efforts to deny love, minimal knowledge of the beloved, and other cases.
In this volume, the signs of unspoken love that manifest in the middle of the journey are examined. The topics pertaining to this phase of love are outlined below:
Continuation of some biological changes upon encountering the beloved, emergence of some biological signs in the absence of the beloved, (continuation of) experiencing different emotions, (continuation of) gaining delicacy in the flow of unspoken love, seeing the universe even more beautifully, experiencing a type of mysticism, self-sacrifice for the beloved, increased courage and boldness, feeling unity with the beloved, desire to marry the beloved, increased creativity, inclination toward romantic literature, literary flourishing and inclination toward arts, memoir-writing, imaginary letter-writing, continued greater attention to environmental factors, inclination toward introversion, continuation of love’s energizing effect, continuation of love’s mobilizing effect, arousal of competitive spirit with the beloved, increased motivation, enhanced purposefulness in life, improved self-confidence in those involved in love, attention to the beloved’s personality attractions, (continuation of) attention to the beloved’s physical attractions, remaining awestruck by the beloved, reduced self-control in front of the beloved, interest in meeting the beloved, planning to meet the beloved, feeling peace, security, and pleasure near the beloved, efforts to find an excuse to meet the beloved, ignoring other members of the opposite sex, restlessness in the beloved’s absence, experiencing passion and delight upon the beloved’s attention, efforts to attract the beloved’s attention, worry about one’s own insufficient physical attractiveness, efforts to adorn oneself more beautifully, resorting to coquetry and flirtation before the beloved, efforts to perfect oneself more completely, expending extensive energy to prepare for meetings, efforts to remain in the seat of coquetry, efforts to censor one’s romantic emotions and feelings, endeavors to apply censorship in one’s logical conclusions, efforts to get closer to the beloved, pursuing clever interactions to achieve one’s goals, efforts to open a path to the beloved’s mother’s heart, indirect expressions of love, efforts to mislead before the beloved, friends, and family, praising and sanctifying the beloved, sanctification, preparing gifts for the beloved, efforts to care for the beloved, cautious behavior with the beloved to avoid hurting them, joy from the beloved’s attention, nervousness upon seeing the beloved, speech disruption when talking to the beloved, interest in conversing with the beloved, desire to talk about the beloved with others, thinking of the beloved, dreaming of the beloved, collecting and recording the beloved’s memories, voice, and image; keeping mementos from the beloved, memorable experiences, efforts to know the person of interest better, feeling a peak experience when meeting the beloved, resorting to the sixth sense, maximal reaction to minor behaviors, attention to the beloved’s behavioral details, fantasizing about marriage and life together with the beloved, pursuing some symbolic behaviors, modeling the beloved in formal behavioral and value dimensions, creating a sense of dependency on the beloved, discovering some inner capacities, the role of friends in each other’s unspoken love, efforts to find common ground with the beloved, endeavors to progress in various fields, maternal behavior toward the person of interest, breaking one’s pride for love, deepening unspoken love over time, wasting time, pursuing clever behaviors toward the beloved, displaying the powerful decoding ability of the feminine gender in communicative relations and unspoken love, loss of the superior decoding ability of the feminine gender when facing intense excitements, efforts to emotionally vent, fear of self, others’ reactions, and one’s future, considering attention to other opposite-sex individuals as betrayal, considering relationships with others as betrayal, considering accepting suitors and marriage as betrayal, emergence of romantic obsessions, prioritizing personality over physical attraction, prominent role of sexual issues in masculine unspoken love, desire for sexual relations with the beloved, enduring psychological pressure from role-playing and misdirection before others, experiencing emotional turbulences, accepting to auction one’s reputation to reach the beloved, longing and worry for the beloved, engraving the beloved’s memories in the mind, feeling jealousy and possessiveness over the beloved, efforts to present oneself better in virtual space, tracking the beloved in virtual space, indirectly testing the beloved, reduced and lost focus, (continuation of) idealistic perception, danger of projecting one’s ideals onto the beloved, wishful and directed perception, disruption in perceiving the passage of time, experiencing forgetting one’s situation and statements, self-extinction, self-deception, disruption in performing individual and social duties, disruption in family relations, efforts to deceive the family, family intervention in the child’s unspoken love, increased intensity of love due to the family’s irrational opposition, humiliation by the beloved, resorting to humiliating actions to get closer to the beloved, fear of rivals emerging, sensitivity and jealousy toward rivals, feeling ill at the thought of rivals, feeling hostility toward potential rivals, creating doubts mid-path in unspoken love, sorrowful exit from one’s fantasies upon encountering the real world, feeling trapped in a dead end, confusion, irritability and sensitivity, feeling tired of bearing the heavy load of love, confusion of modern girls and women when facing traditional men, suspension of thinking and rationality amid emotional turmoil, not seeing each other’s moral and doctrinal differences, relative feelings of fear and anxiety, emergence of severe mood swings, anger toward the beloved, escaping thoughts of failure by seeking refuge in ambiguity and suspense, problems from lacking a codified value system, being exploited by the beloved, resorting to slander and cursing the beloved, formation of some reverse reactions, remaining in conflict between reason and emotion, admitting to irrational and insane behaviors, gradual realization by the lover of the beloved’s flaws, lover’s desire to ignore the beloved’s flaws, lover’s readiness to spend for their unspoken love, becoming less or more talkative, lack of sufficient knowledge as the greatest danger, experiencing a type of delusion, emergence of some physical problems, shock from the possibility of losing the beloved, emergence of some psychological disorders, seeking refuge in God, greater attention to prayer and religious acts, resorting to vows and supplications, distancing from God, seeking refuge in superstitions, resorting to substance abuse for temporary calm, and other cases.
In the third volume of this series, the signs of the end of unspoken love will be examined.